Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Without you

Post by Ankita (my sister) :Its a composition by her, never knew she writes so beautifully.Thank you for sharing here.

"Without You"

Days turned to weeks & weeks turned to years,
There are thousands of my tears,
That I shed for you,
About which you never knew,
There is so much suffering &  so much pain,
And there is no one to whom I can explain,
If you would have understood me ,
There was no need of me going  to anyone else,
               And after all these years of loving you I feel ,
  All my cries are in vain.

1st guest post: "Am I an addict?"

 Post by Srijan

Am I an addict?

A week ago, Nimisha wrote a blog post on her addiction to shopping. Since addiction is a theme that has always attracted me, an attempt to analyse whether I am one or not seemed like an appropriate way of taking up some space in her blog.

An addict is generally defined in the dictionary as a person who is physically and mentally dependent on a particular substance or activity. If that is so, then I am an addict. Not to alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, or to any other substance, but to inactivity itself, which is the only activity I truly engage in.

Of course, this inactivity is difficult to diagnose, for its symptoms never remain the same. They take up different forms at different times in different situations, but the inactivity that lies just below the surface remains constant. Over the last month or so, for instance, I have begun almost every single day by logging into Facebook only to remain logged in for the rest of the day until I finally log out at bedtime. This cycle is broken only when I am some place where there is no computer screen to stare at.

Since there is no point in simply remaining idle on Facebook, I update my status on it every single day, mostly by sharing links and writing 420 characters each on every one of them. Once I found out that I wanted to do this on a daily basis, I also wanted to come up with a system for it. Accordingly, I decided that I would try to update my status every day at midnight, which meant that I needed to find a link and write 420 characters on it every day, too. Not happy just with a fixed time at which to update my status every day, I also came up with a system for deciding which links to share every day. To that end, I decided to log into Britannica every day to go through their ‘This Day in History’ so that I can finalise which event or birth to commemorate by sharing a link related to it. Once the occasion is finalised, I go to Google Videos in search for an appropriate video, which usually happens to be a documentary. This, in short, is the system that I have devised for Facebook. I, of course, deviate from it on some days, but this template remains the same throughout.

I believe that this proves beyond all reasonable doubt that I am addicted to Facebook. However, it does not prove that I am addicted to inactivity since what I have described above also entails some activity. To me, however, any activity that I should not engage in, especially if it is at the cost of something that I should be engaged in instead, is equivalent to inactivity. And if that be the case, one would be hard put to find a person more addicted than I. I only hope not for long.

 Image 2: source google

A new start

As a blogger, i know, even when you love writing, sometimes it gets difficult to maintain the blog, some of my friends who write fabulously started their blogs but after sometime either deleted the blog or kept the writing space unused because of the difficulty of maintainence. so while talking to Srijan today, an idea struck that why not i share this space of mine with people who are close to me & let them share their thoughts & experience without being in pressure to maintain the blog & create a forum where all of us can independently contribute & express ourselves !!!

Friday, September 9, 2011

A day of Introspection

I follow one of the Art of living programme, so yesterday the speaker was  talking about the most crucial topic that every one of us are dealing with & i.e. RELATIONSHIPS.

They dealt with issues like lack of understanding, Honesty, & Trust in relationships, and i was surprised that every one was dealing with the similar kind of issues in different form of relationships.

I feel we have made everything so complex, atleast me, i expect different behaviours from different people for the same situation, like i keep calling "R" the whole day that whether he had his food, what he is upto, when he is coming home and feel he doesnt understand my concern when he gets irritated , but when the same concern is shown by mum , i get  agitated sometimes, thinking that  I am not a kid eventually I get hurt from both the side...and its not because of anyone else i guess there is a problem in my behavioural attitude.

The speaker of the programme said that we can change ourselves & be happy rather than telling other people to change which is rather difficult or sometimes not possible.But i guess it is not that easy to follow , but i am still trying to better myself and keep my status calm and indulge myself into positive things rather than sitting idle after office.I really want to better myself as in want my soul to be so strong that it does not get affected or disturb because of things which are not really of much importance.

Om Shanti

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Shopping -An Addiction?

So, it started with a  book , then few gifts for friends, then clothes , cosmetics so on & so on...and now the list seems unending...yes i have become a complete shopping addict..Somebody save me!!!

Two days back i saw one of my very closest friend "A" updated her Facebook status abt how, she is doing over-shopping & wants to stop, then i realised that i too have become a compulsive shopping addict, my house and specially my wadrobe is filled with unwanted clothes, books, too much of cosmetics , still unused fragrances n what not...and most of this things out of these , i have bought online...reasons great discounts, they deliever at doorsteps n the biggest reason i m a complete jerk.

Today while watching "Keeping up with Kardashians" series, i was taken aback how Ms. Kim was overshopping & I said to myself "cmmon who does a shopping of $19000 in a single store....yes you are right she shopped for 19 thousand dollars in a single store i mean approximately eight and half lakh rupees ...but i realised that i too have the same problem but not in such a big way (but cmmon for spending $ 19000 you need to even earn that much)...Nowadays i go broke till 20th of every month...yes u heard it correctly, so now u guys know when to call me up to help.

Finally  i have come up with few solutions that can hold me back for not going overboard with this syndrome:

1. I should burn my debit card.
2. I should donate all my money after paying for all necessary things, atleast the money can help someone needy rather than getting wasted to buy a lip gloss.
3. Write to all the online shopping portals to blacklist me from their customer's list
4.Change the user id & password of my Online banking & take a drug & erase my memory for the same.

Please drop in your suggestions if you have some serious ones!!!
Till then Happy No Shopping !!

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Story of a Blank Call

Hey all,

Today is saturday and one of the days where inspite of whatever happens i feel happy the entire day in anticipation of Off on Sunday..

I started this post to create my own space, to have freedom of writing, about, what i feel on a particular day or on an issue that i  have experienced.

So this one goes on how people have so much of time and are not happy about their own lifes that they play games of Blank calls with others , funny in the starting but at the end it becomes irritating even if you avoid it to a larger extent.I know people say avoid it, reject the call n so on but my poor phone even after having all the other hi end techonologies embedded into it, fails to have simple featues like reject calls and assiginig a silent mode for an individual number.....

Dont understand it...if someone wants adventure then go n do some adventure sports (Easy!!!!  n boss its safe to have fun that way) or want to listen to a any female's voice, buddy call any damn chick on your phone list, atleast u ll have a two- way conversation minus the slangs.There are so many serious cases that where  person have been so much harassed and are not able to track the caller, that they try to kill themselves or go in depression.It can be very serious at times too.

I think the service providers should have policies where if someone gives his/her proper credential and the service provider checks out that a particular number has really called up on the petitioner's no. they should provide the complete detail of ar****le and should call up from their side to give a warning...

But till then i think we have to wait n keep feeling victimised or have jugad in telecom circle n get the details of the anonymous caller and f**k him/her  hard.

This is the first time time that between the lines i have used slangs on my post, but cmmon i can write what i feel ...ITS MY SPACE.....